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I’m not your fetish

Updated: May 4, 2023

Don’t call me a BBW, I’m not your fetish. I'm sure you all have heard this very trending phrase but what does it actually refer to? Well ladies and gentlemen it’s obvious. PORN. There is a connection to porn, sexual desire and all the above. Lately, people have been really hating this phrase. Personally, we don’t have a problem with it, but we can see why they despise it. Before we get deep in this conversation

DISCLAIMER: if you are highly sensitive or all in your feels any time during this read, do us a favor and EXIT. Use the X, Circle, dot, red button or whatever it is that closes this tab…

Let start by saying BBW was not the Porn Industry’s to take. We will give credit where it's due. BBW was coined by a lady named Carol Shaw in the 70’s who came up with “BBW Magazine” which was a lifestyle magazine featuring bigger women on every page doing the same ISH that other magazines were doing. Nothing was average about that and we mean that in the most respectful way. You have to understand that time period and know that big women were not ideal. Most of your magazines featured thinner women. That was considered the norm. Thinner women were seen as glamorous, beautiful and people adored their lifestyle so much that they wanted to have it too. BBW Magazine was something for others to look forward to. Seeing someone who represented themselves was refreshing. By then, I’m sure BBWs became really popular and BOOM this is where PORN makes its entrance.

Do you realize that the porn industry will sexualize practically anything? We can drop mustard on our big toe accidentally and guess what? If its trending 500,000 to 1000000 views, it will be grossing millions by the end of the month. NO SERIOUSLY…If any topic gets that much attention, that is the perfect opportunity for someone else to swim in all the glory too. Literally...

After all, the sex industry is a billion-dollar business. You know what would make it different? Naked People and BOOM. Modified version of the original idea but because they put a completely different spin on it, now they are entitled to call this their "original" idea. See where we are going with this? Just like most brands Porn uses what they have learned or researched, apply it in a different manner and capitalize on their modified version. Speaking of that…

okay now!!! We are pretty sure you are reading this blog from one. SCRATCH THAT. No, we are confident.

Anyway…It’s the way the world OPERATES. They compete and at times completely reconstruct the old version or someone else's version into something more innovative than stamp their label/brand on it so they can call it their own. When it comes to BBW, you have to reconstruct the old meaning/value and create a new one. It’s up to the community to reclaim it and do something about it. Normalize the heck out of it. It's up to US. Simple, right? ABSOLUTELY FREAKING YES!!!!

The first thing we need to do is change the individual response to BBWs. Individual behavior is shaped by cultural norms and expectations. So, what do we do? Do we come up with a new word or completely disregard the current one? The way we see it's pointless because it will only be replaced with something else so why not change the cultural perspective. BBW or Big Beautiful Woman is only a fetish because we are a possession (or so they think) that they cannot have and that turns them on. We do pose a question however and read it carefully...

Is this a fetish simply because they are fixated on the fact that we are not average sized or the fact that they realize that we are as desirable as someone who is average?

Think about it as we continue. We Will come back to this soon.

First let us say this one thing. The porn industry has heightened this image of desire and expectation that people have become uncomfortable with themselves. Naturally, uncomfortable feelings bring on self-doubt and uncertainty. Change and normalization starts with yourself first. Until you understand that although you individually are not targeted as a fetish, you singly are desirable in your own current beautiful state. When you realize this fact, the phrase/word itself becomes obsolete. It doesn't matter. Now people would oppose and say that now we are accepting the label. Labels exists for everyone and stereotypes are those formed by society based on their expectations of what they think should/shouldn't happen or their beliefs of how these "labeled" people are however WHO CARES. Who freaking cares really. We believe in changing the narrative or the expectation of who or what they thought was going to happen. It's like saying all fat people do is eat but when they see someone within that group in the gym lifting heavier weights than them then its like.....damn. They are shocked because it is not expected so that is what we are saying. Show them something different.

Second, we are going to counteract the statement “I’m not a fetish” because sweetie…WE ARE. Size really doesn’t play a factor in this at all. We WOMEN are desirable because what we have below the belt is addictive to those who have traveled beyond the gates of Labia and explored the deep depths of Jyna. For a long time, our lady parts (societies label) have been desired beyond the purpose/need of intercourse which is to create life however because of the thirst (from men of course) for instantaneous gratification to feed their "sexual appetite", we have been put on this pedestal to have this "sexy" element solely based on what we have and how it makes them feel.

Hey...TRUTH...Fast forward to today's problems. The best way to deal is to ignore it. You can't let simple words get the best of you. You have to let go and just be about your SHIII. Guess what? If they don't like it, do not give them the attention they want because all they are trying to do is to get a reaction out of you. Instead, show them this. See...Being Sexy is all in what you make it. There is more value to being "sexy" than what porn has shown it to be. Sexy is stimulating, erotic, interesting or appealing in your own unique way. Show them that. If every single person where to show them something opposite of what is expected of us then that in itself will change the narrative slowly but surely.

I'm not your fetish. What is that really? Fetish is psychological in which the thought of particular object(s) or body part(s) stimulates or arouses someone. Fetishes stimulate a person sexually but in some cases its in other ways. The question we posed earlier was if BBW is a fetish because they (people who love BBW) are fixated on the fact that we are not average sized or the fact that we are just as desirable as someone who is average? This is probably something you never even wondered. Our opinion is that Big women are a fetish because we are desirable. To some it doesn't matter so much the size as it is the attraction or preference for a bigger adult (hey we have to emphasize ADULT because that extreme pervert ISH is a NO) person so let them dream. Value is only added when its needed and mostly on an individual one-to-one basis. Other than that WHOOO CARES.

Until Next Time Beauties! Reach Out, Speak Up & Be Known

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